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Monday, February 24, 2014

The Status of Women in Islam

I. INTRODUCTION
The status of women in society is neither a new issue nor is it a fully settled one. The position of Islam on this issue has been among the subjects presented to the Western reader with the least objectivity. This writing is intended to provide a brief and authentic exposition of what Islam stands for in this regard. The teachings of Islam are based essentially on the Quran (God's revelation) and Hadith (elaboration by Prophet Muhammad) pbuh. The Quran and the Hadith, properly and unbiasedly understood, provide the basic source of authentication for any position or view which is attributed to Islam.

The paper starts with a brief survey of the status of women in the pre-Islamic era. It then focuses on these major questions: What is the position of Islam regarding the status of woman in society? How similar or different is that position from "the spirit of the time," which was dominant when Islam was revealed? How would this compare with the "rights" which were finally gained by woman in recent decades?

II. HISTORICAL PERSPECTIVES
One major objective of this paper is to provide a fair evaluation of what Islam contributed (or failed to contribute) toward the restoration of woman's dignity and rights. In order to achieve this objective, it may be useful to review briefly how women were treated in general in previous civilizations and religions, especially those which preceded Islam (Pre-610 C.E.). Part of the information provided here, however, describes the status of woman as late as the nineteenth century, more than twelve centuries after Islam.

Women in Ancient Civilization
Describing the status of the Indian woman, Encyclopedia Britannica states:
In India, subjection was a cardinal principle. Day and night must women be held by their protectors in a state of dependence says Manu. The rule of inheritance was agnatic, that is descent traced through males to the exclusion of females. In Hindu scriptures, the description of a good wife is as follows: "a woman whose mind, speech and body are kept in subjection, acquires high renown in this world, and, in the next, the same abode with her husband."

In Athens, women were not better off than either the Indian or the Roman women.
Athenian women were always minors, subject to some male - to their father, to their brother, or to some of their male kin. Her consent in marriage was not generally thought to be necessary and "she was obliged to submit to the wishes of her parents, and receive from them her husband and her lord, even though he were stranger to her." A Roman wife was described by an historian as: "a babe, a minor, a ward, a person incapable of doing or acting anything according to her own individual taste, a person continually under the tutelage and guardianship of her husband."

In the Encyclopedia Britannica, we find a summary of the legal status of women in the Roman civilization:
In Roman Law a woman was even in historic times completely dependent. If married she and her property passed into the power of her husband... the wife was the purchased property of her husband, and like a slave acquired only for his benefit. A woman could not exercise any civil or public office, could not be a witness, surety, tutor, or curator; she could not adopt or be adopted, or make will or contract. Among the Scandinavian races women were: under perpetual tutelage, whether married or unmarried. As late as the Code of Christian V, at the end of the 17th Century, it was enacted that if a woman married without the consent of her tutor he might have, if he wished, administration and usufruct of her goods during her life.

According to the English Common Law:
...all real property which a wife held at the time of a marriage became a possession of her husband. He was entitled to the rent from the land and to any profit which might be made from operating the estate during the joint life of the spouses. As time passed, the English courts devised means to forbid a husband's transferring real property without the consent of his wife, but he still retained the right to manage it and to receive the money which it produced. As to a wife's personal property, the husband's power was complete. He had the right to spend it as he saw fit.

Only by the late nineteenth Century did the situation start to improve. "By a series of acts starting with the Married women's Property Act in 1870, amended in 1882 and 1887, married women achieved the right to own property and to enter contracts on a par with spinsters, widows, and divorcees." As late as the Nineteenth Century an authority in ancient law, Sir Henry Maine, wrote: "No society which preserves any tincture of Christian institutions is likely to restore to married women the personal liberty conferred on them by the Middle Roman Law."

In his essay The Subjection of Women, John Stuart Mill wrote:
We are continually told that civilization and Christianity have restored to the woman her just rights. Meanwhile the wife is the actual bondservant of her husband; no less so, as far as the legal obligation goes, than slaves commonly so called. 

Before moving on to the Quranic decrees concerning the status of woman, a few Biblical decrees may shed more light on the subject, thus providing a better basis for an impartial evaluation. In the Mosaic Law, the wife was betrothed. Explaining this concept, the Encyclopedia Biblical states: "To betroth a wife to oneself meant simply to acquire possession of her by payment of the purchase money; the betrothed is a girl for whom the purchase money has been paid." From the legal point of view, the consent of the girl was not necessary for the validation of her marriage. "The girl's consent is unnecessary and the need for it is nowhere suggested in the Law."

As to the right of divorce, we read in the Encyclopedia Biblical: "The woman being man's property, his right to divorce her follows as a matter of course." The right to divorce was held only by man. "In the Mosaic Law divorce was a privilege of the husband only.... "

The position of the Christian Church until recent centuries seems to have been influenced by both the Mosaic Law and by the streams of thought that were dominant in its contemporary cultures. In their book, Marriage East and West, David and Vera Mace wrote: 
Let no one suppose, either, that our Christian heritage is free of such slighting judgments. It would be hard to find anywhere a collection of more degrading references to the female sex than the early Church Fathers provide. Lecky, the famous historian, speaks of (these fierce incentives which form so conspicuous and so grotesque a portion of the writing of the Fathers... woman was represented as the door of hell, as the mother of all human ills. She should be ashamed at the very thought that she is a woman. She should live in continual penance on account of the curses she has brought upon the world. She should be ashamed of her dress, for it is the memorial of her fall. She should be especially ashamed of her beauty, for it is the most potent instrument of the devil). One of the most scathing of these attacks on woman is that of Tertullian: (Do you know that you are each an Eve? The sentence of God on this sex of yours lives in this age: the guilt must of necessity live too. You are the devil's gateway: you are the unsealer of that forbidden tree; you are the first deserters of the divine law; you are she who persuades him whom the devil was not valiant enough to attack. You destroyed so easily God's image, man. On account of your desert - that is death - even the Son of God had to die). Not only did the church affirm the inferior status of woman, it deprived her of legal rights she had previously enjoyed. 


 III. WOMAN IN ISLAM
In the midst of the darkness that engulfed the world, the divine revelation echoed in the wide desert of Arabia with a fresh, noble, and universal message to humanity:
"O Mankind, keep your duty to your Lord who created you from a single soul and from it created its mate (of same kind) and from them twain has spread a multitude of men and women...". [Noble Quran 4:1]
A scholar who pondered about this verse states: "It is believed that there is no text, old or new, that deals with the humanity of the woman from all aspects with such amazing brevity, eloquence, depth, and originality as this divine decree."

Stressing this noble and natural conception, them Quran states:
"He (God) it is who did create you from a single soul and therefrom did create his mate, that he might dwell with her (in love)..." [Noble Quran 7:189]
"The Creator of heavens and earth: He has made for you pairs from among yourselves" [Noble Quran 42:11]
"And Allah has given you mates of your own nature, and has given you from your mates, children and grandchildren, and has made provision of good things for you. Is it then in vanity that they believe and in the grace of God that they disbelieve?" [Noble Quran 16:72]
The rest of this paper outlines the position of Islam regarding the status of woman in society from its various aspects - spiritually, socially, economically and politically.

1. The Spiritual Aspect
The Quran provides clear-cut evidence that woman is completely equated with man in the sight of God in terms of her rights and responsibilities. The Quran states:
"Every soul will be (held) in pledge for its deeds" [Noble Quran 74:38]
It also states:
"...So their Lord accepted their prayers, (saying): I will not suffer to be lost the work of any of you whether male or female. You proceed one from another..." [Noble Quran 3:195]
"Whoever works righteousness, man or woman, and has faith, verily to him will We give a new life that is good and pure, and We will bestow on such their reward according to their actions." [Noble Quran 16:97, see also 4:124]

Woman according to the Quran is not blamed for Adam's first mistake. Both were jointly wrong in their disobedience to God, both repented, and both were forgiven. [Noble Quran 2:36, 7:20-24]
In one verse in fact [20:121], Adam specifically, was blamed. In terms of religious obligations, such as the Daily Prayers, Fasting, Poor-due, and Pilgrimage, woman is no different from man. In some cases indeed, woman has certain advantages over man. For example, the woman is exempted from the daily prayers and from fasting during her menstrual periods and forty days after childbirth. She is also exempted from fasting during her pregnancy and when she is nursing her baby if there is any threat to her health or her baby's. If the missed fasting is obligatory (during the month of Ramadan), she can make up for the missed days whenever she can. She does not have to make up for the prayers missed for any of the above reasons. Although women can and did go into the mosque during the days of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and thereafter attendance at the Friday congregational prayers is optional for them while it is mandatory for men (on Friday).

This is clearly a tender touch of the Islamic teachings for they are considerate of the fact that a woman may be nursing her baby or caring for him, and thus may be unable to go out to the mosque at the time of the prayers. They also take into account the physiological and psychological changes associated with her natural female functions.


2. The Social Aspect
a) As a child and an adolescent
Despite the social acceptance of female infanticide among some Arabian tribes, the Quran forbade this custom, and considered it a crime like any other murder.
"And when the female (infant) buried alive - is questioned, for what crime she was killed." [Noble Quran 81:8-9]

Criticizing the attitudes of such parents who reject their female children, the Quran states:
"When news is brought to one of them, of (the Birth of) a female (child), his face darkens and he is filled with inward grief! With shame does he hide himself from his people because of the bad news he has had! Shall he retain her on (sufferance) and contempt, or bury her in the dust? Ah! What an evil (choice) they decide on?" [Noble Quran 16:58-59]

Far from saving the girl's life so that she may later suffer injustice and inequality, Islam requires kind and just treatment for her. Among the sayings of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) in this regard are the following:
Whosoever has a daughter and he does not bury her alive, does not insult her, and does not favor his son over her, God will enter him into Paradise. [Ibn Hanbal, No. 1957]
Whosoever supports two daughters till they mature, he and I will come in the Day of Judgment as this (and he pointed with his two fingers held together).

A similar Hadith deals in like manner with one who supports two sisters. [Ibn-Hanbal, No. 2104]
The right of females to seek knowledge is not different from that of males. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
"Seeking knowledge is mandatory for every Muslim". [Al-Bayhaqi]
Muslim as used here including both males and females.

b) As a wife:
The Quran clearly indicates that marriage is sharing between the two halves of the society, and that its objectives, besides perpetuating human life, are emotional well-being and spiritual harmony. Its bases are love and mercy.
Among the most impressive verses in the Quran about marriage is the following.
"And among His signs is this: That He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest, peace of mind in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Lo, herein indeed are signs for people who reflect." [Noble Quran 30:21]

According to Islamic Law, women cannot be forced to marry anyone without their consent.
Ibn 'Abbas reported that a girl came to the Messenger of God, Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), and she reported that her father had forced her to marry without her consent. The Messenger of God gave her the choice... (between accepting the marriage or invalidating it). [Ibn Hanbal No. 2469]

In another version, the girl said:
"Actually I accept this marriage but I wanted to let women know that parents have no right (to force a husband on them)" [Ibn Majah, No. 1873]
Besides all other provisions for her protection at the time of marriage, it was specifically decreed that woman has the full right to her Mahr, a marriage gift, which is presented to her by her husband and is included in the nuptial contract, and that such ownership does not transfer to her father or husband. The concept of Mahr in Islam is neither an actual or symbolic price for the woman, as was the case in certain cultures, but rather it is a gift symbolizing love and affection.

The rules for married life in Islam are clear and in harmony with upright human nature. In consideration of the physiological and psychological make-up of man and woman, both have equal rights and claims on one another, except for one responsibility, that of leadership. This is a matter which is natural in any collective life and which is consistent with the nature of man.


The Quran thus states:
"...And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them, and men are a degree above them." [Noble Quran 2:228]
Such degree is Quiwama (maintenance and protection). This refers to that natural difference between the sexes which entitles the weaker sex to protection. It implies no superiority or advantage before the law. Yet, man's role of leadership in relation to his family does not mean the husband's dictatorship over his wife. Islam emphasizes the importance of taking counsel and mutual agreement in family decisions. The Quran gives us an example:
"...If they (husband wife) desire to wean the child by mutual consent and (after) consultation, there is no blame on them..." [Noble Quran 2:233]
Over and above her basic rights as a wife comes the right which is emphasized by the Quran and is strongly recommended by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him); kind treatment and companionship.

The Quran states:
"...But consort with them in kindness, for if you hate them it may happen that you hate a thing wherein God has placed much good." [Noble Quran 4:19]
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
"The best of you is the best to his family and I am the best among you to my family."
The most perfect believers are the best in conduct and best of you are those who are best to their wives. [Ibn-Hanbal, No. 7396]
Behold, many women came to Muhammad's wives complaining against their husbands (because they beat them) - - those (husbands) are not the best of you.

As the woman's right to decide about her marriage is recognized, so also her right to seek an end for an unsuccessful marriage is recognized. To provide for the stability of the family, however, and in order to protect it from hasty decisions under temporary emotional stress, certain steps and waiting periods should be observed by men and women seeking divorce. Considering the relatively more emotional nature of women, a good reason for asking for divorce should be brought before the judge. Like the man, however, the woman can divorce her husband with out resorting to the court, if the nuptial contract allows that.

More specifically, some aspects of Islamic Law concerning marriage and divorce are interesting and are worthy of separate treatment. When the continuation of the marriage relationship is impossible for any reason, men are still taught to seek a gracious end for it.

The Quran states about such cases:
"When you divorce women, and they reach their prescribed term, then retain them in kindness and retain them not for injury so that you transgress (the limits)..." [Noble Quran 2:231] [See also Quran 2:229 and 33:49]

c) As a mother:
Islam considered kindness to parents next to the worship of God.
"And we have enjoined upon man (to be good) to his parents: His mother bears him in weakness upon weakness..." [Noble Quran 31:14] [See also Quran 46:15, 29:8]
Moreover, the Quran has a special recommendation for the good treatment of mothers:
"Your Lord has decreed that you worship none save Him, and that you be kind to your parents..." [Noble Quran 17:23]

A man came to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) asking:
O Messenger of God, who among the people is the most worthy of my good company? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, Your mother. The man said then who else: The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, Your mother. The man asked, Then who else? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, Your mother. The man asked, Then who else? Only then did the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) say, Your father. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
A famous saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is: "Paradise is at the feet of mothers." [In An-Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, Ahmad]
"It is the generous (in character) who is good to women, and it is the wicked who insults them."

3. The Economic Aspect
Islam decreed a right of which woman was deprived both before Islam and after it (even as late as this century), the right of independent ownership. According to Islamic Law, woman's right to her money, real estate, or other properties is fully acknowledged. This right undergoes no change whether she is single or married. She retains her full rights to buy, sell, mortgage or lease any or all her properties. It is nowhere suggested in the Law that a woman is a minor simply because she is a female. It is also noteworthy that such right applies to her properties before marriage as well as to whatever she acquires thereafter.

With regard to the woman's right to seek employment it should be stated first that Islam regards her role in society as a mother and a wife as the most sacred and essential one. Neither maids nor baby-sitters can possibly take the mother's place as the educator of an upright, complex free, and carefully-reared children. Such a noble and vital role, which largely shapes the future of nations, cannot be regarded as "idleness".
However, there is no decree in Islam which forbids woman from seeking employment whenever there is a necessity for it, especially in positions which fit her nature and in which society needs her most. Examples of these professions are nursing, teaching (especially for children), and medicine. Moreover, there is no restriction on benefiting from woman's exceptional talent in any field. Even for the position of a judge, where there may be a tendency to doubt the woman's fitness for the post due to her more emotional nature, we find early Muslim scholars such as Abu-Hanifah and At-Tabari holding there is nothing wrong with it. In addition, Islam restored to woman the right of inheritance, after she herself was an object of inheritance in some cultures. Her share is completely hers and no one can make any claim on it, including her father and her husband.
"Unto men (of the family) belongs a share of that which Parents and near kindred leave, and unto women a share of that which parents and near kindred leave, whether it be a little or much - a determinate share." [Noble Quran 4:7]

Her share in most cases is one-half the man's share, with no implication that she is worth half a man! It would seem grossly inconsistent after the overwhelming evidence of woman's equitable treatment in Islam, which was discussed in the preceding pages, to make such an inference. This variation in inheritance rights is only consistent with the variations in financial responsibilities of man and woman according to the Islamic Law. Man in Islam is fully responsible for the maintenance of his wife, his children, and in some cases of his needy relatives, especially the females. This responsibility is neither waived nor reduced because of his wife's wealth or because of her access to any personal income gained from work, rent, profit, or any other legal means.
Woman, on the other hand, is far more secure financially and is far less burdened with any claims on her possessions. Her possessions before marriage do not transfer to her husband and she even keeps her maiden name. She has no obligation to spend on her family out of such properties or out of her income after marriage. She is entitled to the "Mahr" which she takes from her husband at the time of marriage. If she is divorced, she may get an alimony from her ex-husband.
An examination of the inheritance law within the overall framework of the Islamic Law reveals not only justice but also an abundance of compassion for woman.

4. The Political Aspect
Any fair investigation of the teachings of Islam into the history of the Islamic civilization will surely find a clear evidence of woman's equality with man in what we call today "political rights".
This includes the right of election as well as the nomination to political offices. It also includes woman's right to participate in public affairs. Both in the Quran and in Islamic history we find examples of women who participated in serious discussions and argued even with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) himself (see the Noble Quran 58:14 and 60:10-12).
During the Caliphate of 'Umar Ibn al-Khattab, a woman argued with him in the mosque, proved her point, and caused him to declare in the presence of people: "A woman is right and 'Umar is wrong."
Although not mentioned in the Quran, one Hadith of the Prophet is interpreted to make woman ineligible for the position of head of state. The Hadith referred to is roughly translated: "A people will not prosper if they let a woman be their leader." This limitation, however, has nothing to do with the dignity of a woman or with her rights. It is rather, related to the natural differences in the biological and psychological make-up of men and women.

According to Islam, the head of the state is no mere figurehead. He leads people in the prayers, especially on Fridays and festivities; he is continuously engaged in the process of decision-making pertaining to the security and well-being of his people. This demanding position, or any similar one, such as the Commander of the Army, is generally inconsistent with the physiological and psychological make-up of woman in general. It is a medical fact that during their monthly periods and during their pregnancies, women undergo various physiological and psychological changes. Such changes may occur during an emergency situation, thus affecting her decision, without considering the excessive strain which is produced. Moreover, some decisions require a maximum of rationality and a minimum of emotionality - a requirement which does not coincide with the instinctive nature of women.

Even in modern times, and in the most developed countries, it is rare to find a woman in the position of a head of state acting as more than a figurehead, a woman commander of the armed services, or even a proportionate number of women representatives in parliaments, or similar bodies. One can not possibly ascribe this to backwardness of various nations or to any constitutional limitation on woman's right to be in such a position as a head of state or as a member of the parliament. It is more logical to explain the present situation in terms of the natural and indisputable differences between man and woman, a difference which does not imply any "supremacy" of one over the other. The difference implies rather the "complementary" roles of both the sexes in life.

IV. CONCLUSION
The first part of this paper deals briefly with the position of various religions and cultures on the issue under investigation. Part of this exposition extends to cover the general trend as late as the nineteenth century, nearly 1300 years after the Quran set forth the Islamic teachings.

In the second part of the paper, the status of women in Islam is briefly discussed. Emphasis in this part is placed on the original and authentic sources of Islam. This represents the standard according to which degree of adherence of Muslims can be judged. It is also a fact that during the downward cycle of Islamic Civilization, such teachings were not strictly adhered to by many people who professed to be Muslims.
Such deviations were unfairly exaggerated by some writers, and the worst of this, were superficially taken to represent the teachings of "Islam" to the Western reader without taking the trouble to make any original and unbiased study of the authentic sources of these teachings.

Even with such deviations three facts are worth mentioning:
The history of Muslims is rich with women of great achievements in all walks of life from as early as the seventh century (A.D.)
It is impossible for anyone to justify any mistreatment of woman by any decree of rule embodied in the Islamic Law, nor could anyone dare to cancel, reduce, or distort the clear-cut legal rights of women given in Islamic Law.
Throughout history, the reputation, chastity and maternal role of Muslim women were objects of admiration by impartial observers.

It is also worthwhile to state that the status which women reached during the present era was not achieved due to the kindness of men or due to natural progress. It was rather achieved through a long struggle and sacrifice on woman's part and only when society needed her contribution and work, more especially during the two world wars, and due to the escalation of technological change.
In the case of Islam such compassionate and dignified status was decreed, not because it reflects the environment of the seventh century, nor under the threat or pressure of women and their organizations, but rather because of its intrinsic truthfulness.

If this indicates anything, it would demonstrate the divine origin of the Quran and the truthfulness of the message of Islam, which, unlike human philosophies and ideologies, was far from proceeding from its human environment, a message which established such humane principles as neither grew obsolete during the course of time and after these many centuries, nor can become obsolete in the future. After all, this is the message of the All-Wise and All-Knowing God whose wisdom and knowledge are far beyond the ultimate in human thought and progress.



By:  Dr. Jamal Badawi
Source: Islam's Women.




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Meditation: It’s Not Just For Hippies

Yoga 
For the past year, I traveled to publications all over the United States. I worked for a media company in Ann Arbor, installing and training users on software that publishes the advertising content of newspapers. As a recent college grad, I felt awkwardly proud and self-conscious saying, “Yeah, I’m here on business.” When working with larger companies, sometimes I’d be gone for two weeks, home for a few days, and gone for another ten. On the road, I often worked fifty or sixty hours a week. Numerous times I woke up in a hotel room without the faintest idea of which state I was in.

Halfway through the winter, the internal struggle between pleasing our customers and taking care of myself began taking a toll on my body. I was always eating on-the-go, inhaling a greasy plate of whatever was fastest. I found myself in hotel gyms at 1:00 a.m., iPod blaring, just trying release pent up anxiety. I woke up each day with a stomachache. Around February, I admitted to myself that I had to slow down. As luck would have it, a few weeks later I passed the Zen Buddhist Temple on a walk through Ann Arbor. It was a yellow, Victorian-style house with a brick wall and a discreet sign advertising meditation classes in front. Although I’d heard stories about meditation transforming one’s perspective, the idea of sitting alone and focusing on not thinking had never made much sense to me.

One weekend, with work piling up and a relationship turning sour, I decided to drag myself to the temple for the afternoon service. It was a slushy February Sunday, and I removed my boots upon entering the foyer. The Dharma teacher, Maum, bowed to me with her hands in a prayer position, and I bowed in return. Each person did the same before entering the temple itself. Inside, the lighting was dim, and there were four rows of mats facing the center. Each had a small, round pillow on it. I followed the example of others, settling onto a pillow with my legs tucked beneath me. I focused on breathing deeply.

We meditated for a brief period, and then Maum spoke about the interconnectedness of beings. She asked us about our experiences, generating a group discussion on listening without judgment. I walked out with a clearer mind and a deeper respect for others. Miraculously, I realized I’d let go of my anxiety. After the service, Maum poured us tea, and I signed up for the next day-long meditation retreat. If one service could help, I thought, a day of meditation might provide the tools to quell my anxiety for good.


Five Meditation Concepts we can all use in our daily lives:

Yoga21. Be Present:
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “live in the moment.” If you’re like me, you may be thinking, “Yeah, that sounds great, but how?”
Start small. Anything can be a meditation: all you have to do is focus 100 percent of your attention on the task at hand. Even if you’re just washing the dishes, do it with great care and consciousness. Feel the water splash over your palms, squeeze the sponge between your fingers, and smell the floral notes in the soap, all while carefully rinsing the residue from your utensils.
With practice, you’ll start to live more of your life this way—aware of all of your senses and immersed in your current experience. You’ll find that the coffee tastes richer and it’s quite beautiful how the light filters through that window in your office. Plus, when you complete important tasks, you’ll be more focused.
2. Breathe, then react:
It’s easy to get caught up in the emotions of life’s chaotic moments. Before reacting to a coworker’s harsh words or a friend’s unsolicited advice, take a deep breath and remind yourself that their words are not about you. Their words come from their own emotions, thoughts, and ideas, and ultimately those ideas stem from that person’s belief system. Don Miguel Ruiz explains this in his book, TheFour Agreements.
Once you realize this, you can listen to others without internalizing their criticism. In other words, you are free to use the ideas that work for you and let go of the ones that don’t. Alternatively, take a walk before dealing with the situation.
3. Only consume what benefits you:
This goes for anything: thoughts, foods, experiences, you name it. If an unpleasant thought pops into your mind, you do not need to agree with it. You can let it go or modify it. Trade in, “I’m so stupid,” for “I’m learning more every day.” Commit to this habit, and it will change your outlook and eventually all of your experiences. An old teaching from meditation speaks to the way this works: “Right thought, right speech, right action.”
4. Listen:
Every person who I speak with teaches me something. Even those who I disagree with teach me something because I view every interaction as an opportunity to learn.
Quite simply, people feel valued when someone listens to them without judgment. Don’t plan what you’re going to say next. Just listen, think about the person’s viewpoint, set aside your beliefs, and respond empathetically. Once you shift into this mindset, you’ll find that new friendships and business prospects fall into your lap.
5. Love yourself:
“I love you,” is a commonly used phrase. I rarely hear people say, “I love myself,” and I think we should change that. Let’s openly admit that we love ourselves. Start by making a list of things you like about yourself. When you’re struggling, reread it.
Since we all make mistakes, let’s agree to forgive ourselves daily. Then, let’s love ourselves in any way we choose: take ten minutes per day, if not more, to do an activity you enjoy.
If you’re really strapped for time, just give your full attention to your nightly routines. Take extra care while washing your face and brushing your teeth, silently thanking your body for its hard work. Praise yourself for the things you accomplished that day—no accomplishment is too small to celebrate.

Advice from the Gurus: How to Get Started

Diane Powers, the founder of Bridgepointe, a non-profit that brings young students in the suburbs together with their counterparts in Detroit, has been practicing meditation for 19 years. She recommends starting with a Mindfulness Meditation course.
Years ago, after Powers had her third child, she experienced sciatic back pain. Her neurologist, Dr. Mitchell Elkiss at Providence Hospital, asked, “Do you think you can heal yourself?”
“It was the first time a doctor had ever asked me such a deep question,” Powers said. When she said yes, he pointed her to a Mindfulness Meditation course taught by a Physician’s Assistant, Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn. The purpose of the ten-week class was to control pain.
“I really liked having my first meditation classes be of science,” Powers said. “I recognized that just by controlling my thoughts, my body would respond. That was the most enlightening moment: I recognized that what I was thinking would come out in my physical body.”
Nine years ago, while seeking a spiritual practice, Maum found the book, Stumbling Toward Enlightenment by Jeri Larkin, who lived at the Zen Temple in Ann Arbor. She enjoyed the book so much that she decided to take a trip to the temple. Today, she teaches meditation courses in the same space. Seekers can take a class every Thursday evening for five weeks, or attend a beginners’ retreat.
If you’re a reader, pick up The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. The audio version contains portions that listeners can use as meditations. Another eye-opening book is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Both Tolle and Ruiz have informed my meditation practice, and in turn, this article.
If you’re a kinesthetic learner, yoga is a great way to begin. Hillery Beavers, a mother of four-year-old twins, first discovered meditation in a yoga class, where students would “lie on mats and go through each point in the body to relax it.”
Beavers recommends taking your mat to a quiet place to try this practice out. On the same note, I recently joined Yogis Anonymous, a website that has guided yoga and meditation videos for learners of all levels.
Meditation may have a stigma in our society: to many, it is mysterious and unconventional. By dissecting its benefits, though, we realize the stress reduction tools we’ve been missing. I attended the retreat eight months ago, and I can honestly tell you that now, when my grandma’s calling and I have 21 unread emails along with six calendar reminders going off and I had to be at my appointment ten minutes ago, I forgive myself for my tardiness and say a silent thank you for the magnificent life in and all around me.



by Emily Morris - Emily is a Detroit-based writer, poet, and social media consultant. She works as the Communications Director of El Sueño (“The Dream”) Project.
Source: Women's Life Style.

Women related organizations in Bangladesh

Here, our effort to inform our viewers about some women related organizations in Bangladesh and make them learn about the activities of these organizations so that they can communicate with the necessary organization for the fulfillment of their own need and purpose.


Bangladesh 
Women’s Foundation:

BWF evolved as an independent body of the Women’s Fund in Bangladesh. Created in 2003 to invest in women’s leadership and empowerment and bringing positive change to women’s livelihoods, BWF seeks to assist some of the 8189 small local women’s organizations that are registered with the Ministry of Women and Children Affairs. Whilst these organizations are officially registered and are led by women who are undoubtedly passionate about women’s empowerment, they are rendered ineffective and often inactive because of the structural, systemic and administrative issues they face such as lack of knowledge about proposal writing, lack of fund-raising capacity and an inability to establish networks due to isolated geographic locations. BWF therefore aids selected organizations with financial, technical and advocacy support filling these gaps to make these organizations effective and expanding their network horizons to get them active.

With initial financial support from the Global Fund for Women BWF started its fundraising, grants making and project support and has since gone on to receive funding from DANIDA and USAID amongst others.

Since its inception BWF has provided technical support in - for example - leadership  and capacity building to over 500 local women’s organisations and a further 34 grants to other organizations also.

Vision

To increase the self-reliance of women’s groups towards supporting women’s initiatives focused on human rights, gender equality and improved conditions of women and children in Bangladesh.

Mission

To achieve this vision the mission is to create an enabling environment for connecting rural women into a national women’s movement. The organization aims to invest in women’s leadership, personal and political empowerment to enable women to initiate their own solutions to poverty, political deprivation, human rights abuses, extreme vulnerability and insecurity through providing the human skill development and financial resources to equip women with the best possible means to lead their solutions.

 

Department of Women Affairs (মহিলা বিষয়ক অধিদপ্তর)

  জাতীয় উন্নয়নের মূল স্রোতধারায় নারীদের সর্ম্পৃক্তকরণ ও নারীর সার্বিক ক্ষমতায়ন নিশ্চিত করা সুষম উন্নয়নের একটি অপরিহার্য পূর্বশর্ত। এ উপলব্ধি থেকে জাতির জনক বঙ্গবন্ধু শেখ মুজিবুর রহমান বাংলাদেশের সংবিধানে নারী ও পুরুষের সমঅধিকার নিশ্চিত করন ও স্বাধীনতা যুদ্ধে নির্যাতিত , ক্ষতিগস্থ নারী সমাজের পূনর্বাসনের জন্য ১৯৭২ সনের ১৮ ই ফেব্রুয়ারী বাংলাদেশ পূনর্বাসন বোর্ড গঠণ করেন। পরবর্তীতে ১৯৭৪ সনে জাতীয় সংসদে আইন পাশের মাধ্যমে নারী পূনর্বাসন বোর্ডকে বাংলাদেশ নারী পূনর্বাসন ও কল্যাণ ফাউন্ডেশনে রুপান্তরীত করা হয়। যা বিভিন্ন ধাপ অতিক্রম করে মহিলা বিষয়ক অধিদপ্তর । মহিলা ও শিশু বিষয়ক মন্ত্রনালয়ের অধীনে মহিলা বিষয়ক অধিদপ্তর নারী উন্নয়নে বিভিন্ন উন্নয়নমূলক কর্মকান্ড বাস্তবায়ন করছে।


নারী ইস্যুভিত্তিক আইন/অধ্যাদেশ সমূহঃ


 অধিদপ্তরের কর্মকান্ড:


মহিলা বিষয়ক অধিদপ্তরের নারী নির্যাতন প্রতিরোধ সেল ও মহিলা সহায়তা কেন্দ্রের কার্যক্রমঃ
   
         


Bangladesh National Woman Lawyers' Association (BNWLA): Bangladesh National Women Lawyers' Association is a lawyer's association based in Dhaka, Bangladesh. It was established in 1979. Its main goal is "to create equal opportunities and equal rights for every woman and child in the country."BNWLA promotes the rights and status of women lawyers alongside fighting for access to justice for all women & children particularly for the most disadvantaged women and children in Bangladesh.

About

BNWLA, as a Human Rights organization with a special focus on establishment of women & children Rights, is always appeared as a pressure group to the government & international bodies & tried to keep the realities for women & children in the public eye. It has been found that without proper policy formulation and action, it is not possible to ensure any positive changes in overall developments of women and children. Following that, BNWLA is trying to bring changes in the society and also to ensure access to justice from grassroots to national level through partnership, networking and policy level advocacy. The organization followed three thematic approaches (prevention, protection & rehabilitation and reintegration) and specific strategies [1) advocacy for introduction and reform of law/policies (including research, dialogues, seminars/workshops, PIL, media, Networking, Partnership); 2) right-based prevention, protection & integration supports (including comprehensive women and child friendly packages like legal, shelter, development, psychosocial counseling & others); 3) enhancing member women lawyers’ professional capacity to act as “ Change Agents”] to resist countrywide violence against women and children & fulfill its vision “ to establish rule of law with gender equality”.

Activities

Prevention - Awareness raising/Sensitization events (both at grassroots and national level); - Capacity building of relevant stakeholders (i.e. lawyers, judiciary people, members of law enforcing agencies, community members, local government representatives, partner organizations & others); - Referral services (both grass roots & national level); - Networking (both national, regional and international)& formal partnership with government, non government bodies & community groups; - Policy level advocacy for bringing changes in practices and policies. - Research and publications on different VAW issues (i.e. wife abuse, rape, domestic violence & others); - Technical assistances to government in drafting/amending laws/policies & structuring GO services. - Media advocacy and - Community based preventive interventions (i.e. initiation of community based advisory centers for local level prevention and immediate supports). Protection -Country wide widespread legal service delivery (i.e. mediation/Shalishes, court case conduction etc) through 6 divisional offices, 42 out-reach clinics & 30 grass roots level partner organizations; - Rescue/release from different confinements; - Repatriation from different countries; - Fact finding or in depth investigation services; - Referral services (both grass roots & national level); - Victim and witness protection through community based and institutional service delivery. Rehabilitation and Reintegration - Comprehensive shelter package services (i.e. shelter, survival, development, legal, psychosocial, re-creative education, medical, capacity building and vocational trainings & others) following minimum standard care guideline & case management approaches; - Community based sustainable psychosocial reintegration supports & services (i.e. family identification, parents contact, assessment, sensitization, handover, alternative livelihood supports, community based care & protection, social protection and prevention etc). - To ensure women and child friendly rescue and recovery services for the survivors’ of different forms of violence.



Bangladesh Federation of Women Entrepreneurs (BFWE): 
It is  founded in 2006, is a non-profit professional organization in Bangladesh. BFWE offers a wide range of benefits and networking opportunities. BFWE encourages women to support each other, to enhance recognition of the achievements of women in business and the professions, and promotes the growth of women-owned enterprises through research and sharing information. BFWE is pledged to the highest ethical standards and professional practices; recognizes local and global environmental and social issues.

Vision
The vision of BFWE is to serve as a platform that would accelerate women's economic empowerment in Bangladesh.

Goal
The goal of BFWE is to provide an environment for women entrepreneurs in urban and rural areas of Bangladesh whereby they would grow and develop their fullest potential as business entrepreneurs.
Mission

The mission of BFWE is to serve as a platform that would do the following:

 1.   initiate informal and formal networking.
 2.   encourage, support, and promote women business owners and entrepreneurs.
 3.   represent all facets of women-owned businesses.
 4.   participate in national and international trade missions and conferences.
 5.   increase capacity through training
  6.  support in accessing capital

Women Entrepreneur Association of Bangladesh (WEAB): This is  was established in year 2000, by a select group of businesswomen. Their aim was to create a platform to help business women establish themselves in a competitive field, dominated by men.

The main object of WEAB was to develop a support system for women entrepreneur to not only improve the quality of their products, to meet the changing market demands, but also to impart training on technical know how, design development and to create marketing links for their products.

In a very short time WEAB was not only firmly established in Dhaka, drawing large number of members, but rapidly branching out all over Bangladesh, including North Bengal.

Aims and Objectives

1. Establish a non-profit trade organization under the aegis of The Federation of Bangladesh Chambers of Commerce and Industry (FBCCI) registered with the Ministry of Commerce, to bring together women entrepreneur of Bangladesh under one umbrella.

2. Help women entrepreneur by identifying weakness and problems faced by them, and find solutions to overcome these.

3. Provide technical training in fields like skill development, quality and design development, book keeping and help find market outlets for women entrepreneur.

4. Organize workshops, seminars, symposiums and round tables where women entrepreneur can get together to exchange ideas and expand their business horizon.

5. Eliminate gender discrimination in the business field.

6. Facilitate loan provision for needy women entrepreneur though bank.

7. Help develop women run businesses with special focus on small and medium enterprises.

8. Find market linkage for women producers both in the country and abroad.

9. Enhance social position of women, inspire other women to enter the entrepreneurial field, and stem social abuse and exploitation of women.

10. Help women develop their personality, instill self-confidence and enhance their self-esteem, improve their status in their homes and in society.

11. Improve standard of living and alleviate poverty in the country.




Bangladesh Mahila Parishad (BMP) is a voluntary membership based national action oriented mass women’s organization working since 1970. For gender equality BMP focuses on activity concerning empowerment of women by enjoying their equal rights & dignity in the family, society and state.
  

BMP is pioneering the movement of resisting violence against women political empowerment and establishment of Constitutional Rights of women since inception. BMP is working in the light of Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination (CEDAW), the Convention on the Rights of Children (CRC), Human Rights Declaration, Cairo Declaration and Beijing Platform for action (BPFA). Besides gender issue BMP also laid emphasis on promoting peace and democracy to establish equity based society having good Governance.

Key Information of Organization:

    Established on 4th April 1970.
    Legal Status:
        Registered under the society act. In 1976.
        Under NGO Affairs Bureau in 1992.
        Member of Economic and Social Council of United Nations (ECOSOC) since 1997.
        Member of CONGO since 2000.
        Number of General Member’s:  More than 0.135 million.
     Area of operation: 59 District branches within country around 2300 local unit at grassroots level.
      Membership Criteria: Women aged 16 years or above belonging to any status, occupation, religion, having commitment to Women’s emancipation and committed to avoid the constitution of organization are eligible for membership.

Vision

    Establish Secular, Democratic, Equity based Human Society and state.

Goal

    Women’s emancipation through empowerment.

BMP is guided by ten principles:

    Written constitution of the organization
    Voluntarism
    Commitment
    Transparency & Accountability
    Non Partisan
    Participatory Approach
    Dynamism
    Equality
    Networking
    Sustainability

Objectives

    Resist Violence Against Women
    Promote Political participation of Women.
    Mainstream of Women in Development and Policies.
    Establish as a Lobby and Advocacy agent.
    Ensure Sustainability of the organization.
    To establish equity based society for man & women.

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Disability in Bangladesh - A Report by "Centre for research and action on development"



5.6% people in Bangladesh have a disability of one 
kind or another as per report revealed in 2005. 
So this percentage must have been increased in 
today's Bangladesh surely. And among these disable 
people, there are significant numbers of disable 
women and children lives here also. Among the PWDs 
(Person with Disabilities) the distribution also 
varied with different aspects i.e. physiological, 
location, age, education etc.


Usually disability is defined as the physical or mental impairment through out the literature surveyed. 
But disability is not only a physical or mental impairment rather it is defined by the culture also. 
Somewhere what is normal sickness in other context it is a disability recognized in the socio- cultural 
settings. In this Report, disability is defined as a complex form of deprivation. And the PWDs are 
found with less capability and less self-confidence within the existing physiological, social 
and cultural settings.


A larger portion of disable people in Bangladesh experiences deficit of food over the 
year. Their housing condition is also very poor, mainly of katcha roof, wall and floor. 
People living with decent housing and hygienic toilets facilities have lower prevalence 
of impairment of one kind or another. More than three-fifths (68.9 percent) disabled 
person met with doctor for their respective problem. Those who did not receive any 
treatment nor visit doctors mainly due to their economic hardship.


It is observed that 96.8 percent people did not know whether there were initiatives taken 
by the policymakers or local government bodies for prevention of disability.78.8 percent 
individuals opined that they did not have any idea whether PWDs were getting 
help from any organisation. The people have little knowledge about the obstacle 
to employment opportunities for the PWDs and recommended special training 
program, micro credit, and specialised programmes for the women with disability, 
rehabilitation services, and establishment of quota for the PWDs in government 
employment. They also know about inclusion of disabled children and adults 
in education programs, and establishing special education schools for children 
with special needs. In health sector, there are some degree of awareness on 
preventing disability through pre-natal and delivery related health care, 
polio, leprosy, and epilepsy treatment, removal of vitamin deficiency and 
iodine deficiency. Some participants also cited programmes related to pollution 
control, noise control, accident prevention and government provided free and 
accessible health care as the requirements of PWDs. 

For these various reasons we found it necessary to put out the link below to find out 
the Report on "DISABILITY IN BANGLADESH - PREVALENCE, 
KNOWLEDGE, ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES" by "Centre for 
research and action on development" for the better elaboration of knowledge 
of our people about disability  in Bangladesh and abroad also:
 

 
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