For the past year, I traveled to publications all over the United
States. I worked for a media company in Ann Arbor, installing and
training users on software that publishes the advertising content of
newspapers. As a recent college grad, I felt awkwardly proud and
self-conscious saying, “Yeah, I’m here on business.” When working with larger companies, sometimes I’d be gone for two
weeks, home for a few days, and gone for another ten. On the road, I
often worked fifty or sixty hours a week. Numerous times I woke up in a
hotel room without the faintest idea of which state I was in.
Halfway through the winter, the internal struggle between pleasing
our customers and taking care of myself began taking a toll on my body. I
was always eating on-the-go, inhaling a greasy plate of whatever was
fastest. I found myself in hotel gyms at 1:00 a.m., iPod blaring, just
trying release pent up anxiety. I woke up each day with a stomachache. Around February, I admitted to myself that I had to slow down. As
luck would have it, a few weeks later I passed the Zen Buddhist Temple
on a walk through Ann Arbor. It was a yellow, Victorian-style house with
a brick wall and a discreet sign advertising meditation classes in
front. Although I’d heard stories about meditation transforming one’s
perspective, the idea of sitting alone and focusing on not thinking had
never made much sense to me.
One weekend, with work piling up and a relationship turning sour, I
decided to drag myself to the temple for the afternoon service. It was a
slushy February Sunday, and I removed my boots upon entering the foyer.
The Dharma teacher, Maum, bowed to me with her hands in a prayer
position, and I bowed in return. Each person did the same before
entering the temple itself. Inside, the lighting was dim, and there were four rows of mats facing
the center. Each had a small, round pillow on it. I followed the
example of others, settling onto a pillow with my legs tucked beneath
me. I focused on breathing deeply.
We meditated for a brief period, and then Maum spoke about the
interconnectedness of beings. She asked us about our experiences,
generating a group discussion on listening without judgment. I walked
out with a clearer mind and a deeper respect for others. Miraculously, I
realized I’d let go of my anxiety. After the service, Maum poured us tea, and I signed up for the next
day-long meditation retreat. If one service could help, I thought, a day
of meditation might provide the tools to quell my anxiety for good.
Five Meditation Concepts we can all use in our daily lives:
1. Be Present:
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “live in the moment.” If you’re like me, you may be thinking, “Yeah, that sounds great, but how?”
Start small. Anything can be a meditation: all you have to do is
focus 100 percent of your attention on the task at hand. Even if you’re
just washing the dishes, do it with great care and consciousness. Feel
the water splash over your palms, squeeze the sponge between your
fingers, and smell the floral notes in the soap, all while carefully
rinsing the residue from your utensils.
With practice, you’ll start to live more of your life this way—aware
of all of your senses and immersed in your current experience. You’ll
find that the coffee tastes richer and it’s quite beautiful how the
light filters through that window in your office. Plus, when you
complete important tasks, you’ll be more focused.
2. Breathe, then react:
It’s easy to get caught up in the emotions of life’s chaotic moments.
Before reacting to a coworker’s harsh words or a friend’s unsolicited
advice, take a deep breath and remind yourself that their words are not
about you. Their words come from their own emotions, thoughts, and
ideas, and ultimately those ideas stem from that person’s belief
system. Don Miguel Ruiz explains this in his book, TheFour Agreements.
Once you realize this, you can listen to others without internalizing
their criticism. In other words, you are free to use the ideas that
work for you and let go of the ones that don’t. Alternatively, take a
walk before dealing with the situation.
3. Only consume what benefits you:
This goes for anything: thoughts, foods, experiences, you name it. If an
unpleasant thought pops into your mind, you do not need to agree with
it. You can let it go or modify it. Trade in, “I’m so stupid,” for “I’m
learning more every day.” Commit to this habit, and it will change your
outlook and eventually all of your experiences. An old teaching from
meditation speaks to the way this works: “Right thought, right
speech, right action.”
4. Listen:
Every person who I speak with teaches me something. Even those
who I disagree with teach me something because I view every interaction
as an opportunity to learn.
Quite simply, people feel valued when someone listens to them without
judgment. Don’t plan what you’re going to say next. Just listen, think
about the person’s viewpoint, set aside your beliefs, and respond
empathetically. Once you shift into this mindset, you’ll find that new
friendships and business prospects fall into your lap.
5. Love yourself:
“I love you,” is a commonly used phrase. I rarely hear people
say, “I love myself,” and I think we should change that. Let’s openly
admit that we love ourselves. Start by making a list of things you like
about yourself. When you’re struggling, reread it.
Since we all make mistakes, let’s agree to forgive ourselves daily.
Then, let’s love ourselves in any way we choose: take ten minutes per
day, if not more, to do an activity you enjoy.
If you’re really strapped for time, just give your full attention to
your nightly routines. Take extra care while washing your face and
brushing your teeth, silently thanking your body for its hard work.
Praise yourself for the things you accomplished that day—no
accomplishment is too small to celebrate.
Advice from the Gurus: How to Get Started
Diane Powers, the founder of Bridgepointe, a non-profit that brings
young students in the suburbs together with their counterparts in
Detroit, has been practicing meditation for 19 years. She recommends
starting with a Mindfulness Meditation course.
Years ago, after Powers had her third child, she experienced sciatic
back pain. Her neurologist, Dr. Mitchell Elkiss at Providence Hospital,
asked, “Do you think you can heal yourself?”
“It was the first time a doctor had ever asked me such a deep
question,” Powers said. When she said yes, he pointed her to a
Mindfulness Meditation course taught by a Physician’s Assistant, Dr. Jon
Kabat-Zinn. The purpose of the ten-week class was to control pain.
“I really liked having my first meditation classes be of science,”
Powers said. “I recognized that just by controlling my thoughts, my
body would respond. That was the most enlightening moment: I recognized
that what I was thinking would come out in my physical body.”
Nine years ago, while seeking a spiritual practice, Maum found the book, Stumbling Toward Enlightenment
by Jeri Larkin, who lived at the Zen Temple in Ann Arbor. She enjoyed
the book so much that she decided to take a trip to the temple. Today,
she teaches meditation courses in the same space. Seekers can take a
class every Thursday evening for five weeks, or attend a beginners’
retreat.
If you’re a reader, pick up The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. The audio version contains portions that listeners can use as meditations. Another eye-opening book is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Both Tolle and Ruiz have informed my meditation practice, and in turn, this article.
If you’re a kinesthetic learner, yoga is a great way to begin.
Hillery Beavers, a mother of four-year-old twins, first discovered
meditation in a yoga class, where students would “lie on mats and go
through each point in the body to relax it.”
Beavers recommends taking your mat to a quiet place to try this
practice out. On the same note, I recently joined Yogis Anonymous, a
website that has guided yoga and meditation videos for learners of all
levels.
Meditation may have a stigma in our society: to many, it is
mysterious and unconventional. By dissecting its benefits, though, we
realize the stress reduction tools we’ve been missing. I attended the
retreat eight months ago, and I can honestly tell you that now, when my
grandma’s calling and I have 21 unread emails along with six calendar
reminders going off and I had to be at my appointment ten minutes ago, I
forgive myself for my tardiness and say a silent thank you for the
magnificent life in and all around me.
by Emily Morris - Emily is a Detroit-based writer, poet, and social media consultant.
She works as the Communications Director of El Sueño (“The Dream”)
Project.
Source: Women's Life Style.
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